To Whom It May Concern

"Why are you so far from me?
In my arms is where you are to be
How long will you make me wait?
I don't know how much more I can take
I missed you but I haven't met you
Oh but I want to
How I do
Slowly counting down the days
Till I finally know your name
The way your hand feels round my waist
The way you laugh, the way your kisses taste
I missed you but I haven't met you
Oh but I want to...

Dear whoever you might be
I'm still waiting patiently."


I'm kind of getting tired of waiting.  I mean, how long do I really have to wait?  Where are you?  Have I met you yet?  Did I miss my chance?  Is there something wrong with me?  What am I waiting for?  What are you waiting for?

I feel stuck.  Just frozen in time.  Like there is no moving forward.  No matter what I do I seem to end up being in the same place. 

Is it so bad that I want to find him?

How Long Will You Make Me Wait?

Other People's Thoughts

"There is something in every one of you that waits and listens

for the sound of the genuine in yourself.

It is the only true guide you will ever have. 

And if you cannot hear it, 

you will all of your life spend your days 

on the ends of strings that somebody else pulls." -Howard Thurman 

"Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; 

courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen." -Winston Churchill

"The keenest sorrow is to recognize 

ourselves as the sole cause of all our adversities." -Sophocles

"Pursue some path, however narrow and crooked, 

in which you can walk with love and reverence." -Henry David Thoreau 

"So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservatism, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality nothing is more damaging to the adventurous spirit within a man than a secure future. The very basic core of a man’s living spirit is his passion for adventure. The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun." -Christopher Mccandless

Walking in the Sun

Obsessed with this song:

Fink --"Walking in the Sun"

Things have been going wrong
Long enough to know everything is right
Been walking in the dark, long enough to know
I finally see the light

I've been losing long enough to know
When I finally won
And even a blind man can tell
When he's walking in the sun

Cried enough tears to know
This feeling called a smile
And I've been bought around long enough to know
When I do it in style

I've been running long enough to know
There's no more need a run
And even a blind man can tell
When he's walking in the sun

Well, the wind is at my back and I'm
Sailing on a ship that's overdue
Well, I've blown so many chances that I
Ain't gonna blow this chance with you

And I've seen enough bad times to know
Good times are gone, yeah
Even a blind man can tell
When he's walking in the sun
Walking in the sun

You can listen to it here...SO GOOD!!

Short Sentences

I recently heard a song by The Civil Wars called "Tip of my Tongue."  It make me think of all the things on the tip of my own tongue that I am dying to say.  So, here they are (all the things I wish I could say but I cannot).

These are the words stuffed inside of me:

• It was so good to see you.  I've missed you so much.  I can't wait until I get to see you again.  You will always have the most precious place in my heart and I will forever care deeply for you in ways I cannot comprehend.  Be good to yourself and know that you are always unconditionally loved.
• I miss you, so much.
• How long am I going to have to wait?
• What's wrong with me?
• Are you thinking of me too?
• I wish someone would say to me: what do you need right now?
• Why does my heart long and ache after things it cannot have...
• You are so cute, and I, in unknown ways, adore  your idiosyncrasies and wish you found me half as interesting as I find you to be.
• How can I be crying when I have so much?
• You were wrong.
• I can't see you anymore.
• I miss your friendship, but know we can never have it back, and it's sad.  You were a great friend to have and wonderful guiding light when I needed it the most.  At the end of the day, you are selfish and I know we can never be friends again because of it.
• I miss you, so much.
  i miss you, so much.
  i miss you...so much.
• There's this song I listen to, just because it's the only thing that make me feel like someone else understands.  It's called "Someone I Used to Know."  It says something like
  "Now and then I think of when we were together
  Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
  Told myself that you were right for me
  But felt so lonely in your company
  But that was love and it's an ache I still remember..."

In reality, most days and times and moments I am happy and loved and feel extremely blessed, and really honestly couldn't ask for more.  I just wonder if I ruined the best thing I ever could have had in a relationship. I wonder if I will ever get that feeling back and if I will ever be in the kind of relationship I was in before.  I wonder if there is someone else like that out there for me.  I wonder if I would have even been happy in it, or if I am fantasizing about how great it was.  Then I think about the fact that he has a girlfriend, and I think that I am stupid for letting myself even think about him.  And, then sometimes I wonder if he will read this blog and see what I write and wonder if it is about him.  Some of it is, and some of it is about other people or other things or other situations.  But right now, it's about him.  The him I can't have because he is elsewhere, literally and figuratively.  It really has been hurting me lately to think that he is out there living his life and loving his girlfriend and moving on with his life, while I am here wondering if I am ever going to be fulfilled.  Sometimes I wonder if he longs for me or misses me the ways that I miss and adore and love him.  Then I remember that he doesn't want to be with me, and I realize that he can't feel the way I do, and he even told me he doesn't love me like I love him, mostly because (as he said) he is incapable of feeling about anyone the way I feel about anything because he just doesn't have the breadth of emotions that I do.  Regardless, he can't feel even nearly what I feel about him, because there would be no other way for him to continue to fake being happy with the wrong person, if I was in fact the right one.

I'm trying to move on.  Really I am.  I am doing everything I know how to do to move on.  But my soul is calling out his name.  Saying "wait"  just "wait" he will come back.  My whole being is telling me that I need to wait for him, and things will be better again someday.  My whole soul is telling me, from some unknown place that he is the one and that it is meant to be.  The story is to great, and the destiny has been written in the stars for far too long for it not to mean something more than just this.

Unbelieveably Precious

I will keep this short.  I will keep this simple.  It's the only way it can be.

My heart is happy.  Deep in its core.  

It is well with my soul.  Thank You, God.

Hello, Fresh Start

Today is 1.2.2012.  I have lots of goals for this year and lots of things I want to get accomplished.  Therefore this blog post won't be that long because I must get started.  Yesterday, I was in bed sick all day so I am already a day behind (go figure). 

First and foremost, this year I am vowing to spend more time crafting.  I joined Pinterest (bad idea, super addicting!).   There are lots of projects I want to make on there that I have found thus far, so I am going to get started on those.  I just have to decide which I want to do first.  It also gives me a great place to find cute layouts for scrapbooking.  You can follow me if you want (http://pinterest.com/thoughtfulteach/).  

Secondly, I am going to be healthy.  Eat better.  Live better. I am not really on a diet or anything special.  Just cutting out the crap.  Working out.  Planning walks.  Planning meals.  Shopping for fresh.  I mean, I live in California.  How can I not eat the fresh fruits and veggies here?  We have year round farmer's markets.  Plus, the weather is so nice that people were sitting outside at Starbucks today.  I have to enjoy that, right?!  

Thirdly, well basically that's it.  Those are the two things I am really fully committed to.  I told my friend a few weeks back that I was going to go celibate for the new year.  She thought I said "celebrate" and she asked me, "Where?!"...lol.  Anyway, I decided against that plan.  I was also going to try to get involved with a youth group of some sort.  Then I realized that I am only in my second year of teaching, I am still working on getting my credential, and (exciting news) I am going to be working on my MASTER'S in Special Education!! Whoop.  So basically, my calendar will be full with lesson planning and homework until the end of next school year.  At which point I think I will have time and energy for youth group involvement.  I might start a scrapbooking club at school for some of the kids.  I might also start doing after school homework help for some of the students.  These things are just maybe.  If they happen, they do.  If they don't work out, then it is what it is. 

I am still trying to figure out where God wants me to be.  So far, I hear Him telling me to just enjoy where I am.  To stop worrying about what's coming next or where I am going to be in a few years.  Just enjoy now.  Today.   So, I let the days unfold as they are.  Just trying to make the most of what I have and enjoying the things I am blessed with.  

Just for the sake of the new year, and in recognizing the value reflecting, here are some things I learned in 2011:

• As long as you're laughing, nothing else matters
• Sometimes people leave for no reason at all
• Things that are meant to be, will be.
• Teaching is wonderful
• Children are the greatest gift the world has
• Not everyone's intentions are clear to themselves or to you
• Secrets don't really exist, if you don't want anyone to know, don't say anything
• It only takes one person to change your outlook on life
• All people really want is to feel loved and appreciated
• Wants and desires change
• There is a family you are born into, and another kind of family, one that is created by another kind of love
• It doesn't always make sense right now, and it may never make sense
• Sometimes (actually, most times) it is better to just let go of control
• Las Vegas is really fun
• Miles/distance don't change anything when you really love and care about a person
• From the words of the year, "Sometimes it lasts in love, and sometimes it hurts instead" -Adele
• I have wonderful wonderful wonderful people in my life.  I try to tell them as much as possible, but I don't think they will ever understand how much they mean to me.

 

It was a really tough year last year.  Probably, the hardest one I have had to survive through.  There was one that was just as hard, maybe even a tie.  I learned a lot about myself, about life, about happiness, about blessings and about trust. 

In the end, it was a year of learning.  Hard, yet poignant lessons.   I go forward with a greater knowledge base and a firmer foundation.  

2012 is going to be a good one.  I can just feel it in my bones.  

26.5

Just slightly over my half-birthday, by about a month, I am starting to realize some things.  Things I thought I would have learned many moons ago.  Things, about life and love and friends and choices that I thought would have just all fallen into place by now.  But they haven't.  As of late, life has been teaching me some deep rooted lessons.  Ones I know will stick with me for the rest of my days. 

I used to think I'd be done learning by the time I was an adult.  I just figured as a kid, your brain would just get filled up and filled up until it was stuffed to the brim with all sorts of awareness and knowledge and understanding, so that by the time you were an adult, there wouldn't be any more learning to be done.  I don't know if I exactly had it pinpointed (in my mind) when adult-hood would start, but surely I thought I would have it all figured out by now.  Boy, was I wrong.

At 26.5 + 1 month...I am just starting to realize the following things.  (let me point out that by realization, it doesn't mean full understanding, it just means a slight awareness.  Like, these thoughts and ideas are starting to tumble around in my mind like clothes in a dryer all mixed up, and everything is still pretty wet and hasn't quite taken on it's correct shape yet).

a.  Relationships are a shit-ton of work, and maybe all the happy marriages that I thought existed...don't really.  My sister told me yesterday that only 1% of couples are really truly happy and satisfied with their relationship/marriage.  Now, I personally believe that the number is larger than that...but who I am to say.  Regardless, the pretty marriage picture I had painted in my mind is far far from reality.  Relationships mean sacrifices, sometimes large, sometimes small.  And they require a deep commitment, trust, love and understanding that transcends through changes in self and in the world around.  It's an extraordinary masterpiece when couples thrive and grow throughout a multitude of circumstances.  When I think about how hard it is to change myself, and how hard it is to grow and learn new habits that aren't working, and the type of self-reflection and self-discipline it takes for me to grow within myself...I have to stop and think about how hard and wonderfully beautiful it is for couples to grow together and love one another through all the good and wonderful and all the terrible and sad.   Because, as with all things in life there is an ebb and flow to it.  There is never perfect harmony for all eternity. 

b.  If i want to do anything, anything at all...I better do it NOW.  Traveling to Italy, to NYC, writing a book, going to Canada, learning Spanish, working in an orphanage, teaching abroad, designing craft projects, living in my own space my own way, reading books, therapy, getting in shape, building better eating habits, learning to cook better, learning to play guitar...all these things must be done now.  While the time is my own, and I can do whatever I want whenever I so choose.  Right now is the time to do all the things I can ever imagine.  Because life will continue to be busy, and there will always be a reason to not do something, and pretty soon I will no longer be young and agile and able to do all the things my heart longs to do.  So, I must do them now.  That way, when I am old and tired and have lived a full life I can be old and happy and full of reminiscent memories of goodness.  And, I can grow as an individual by doing all the things my heart longs to do.  I must also recognize that the fact I am able to do all the desires of my heart, is a tremendous blessing itself.  Thank you, God.

c.  Regrets.  They are hard to move on from and they sometimes leave me wondering if I did the right thing.  But I have to trust.  I have to know that where I am now is exactly where I am supposed to be and that all things will work out for the goodness that should and will be.  The plan that I have in my mind and the plan that I see best working for my life may not, in fact, be the best option for me.  Actually, let me rephrase that.  I have to believe and know within my heart that God has got this all figured out for me.  I may like to think I need to know and have to know how and when and where everything will be delivered to me, but I have to know that it will come in time.  That also, regrets are a waste of the blessings and the gifts that I have today, right now, in this moment.  The blessings I have are so many I can barely even begin to wrap my mind them all.  I have a job that I love so much.  A job, that fills me with love and life and joy on a daily and constant almost instant basis.  My students are...I cannot even put it into words how much I love them all.  Each and every one of them.  I love them because they are so sweet and innocent and they, like all people, just want to feel love and support.  I hope that I am able to teach them to look inside themselves to find and believe in their own inner beauty, strength and light.  Not only do I have the best job in the whole entire world, but I have a support group of people that are loving and supportive and smart and funny and talented and caring and kind and really, just truly wonderful.  I have never had friends like this in my life, and I am so lucky and so blessed to know all of them.  Each of them are beautiful and bring so much to my life.  I have my own apartment, I have time for my hobbies and I have time to get my Master's.  I have time for happy hour chats with friends, and dinner with my mom.  I get to watch my stupid TV shows when I want, or go to Starbucks for hours if I feel like it.  I get to drive around to look at Christmas lights with my bestie, and get Post Cards from Hong Kong from another bestie.  I may have a few things in my past that I would like to change, but I have to realize that had I not made those choices back then, there is no way I would be exactly where I am right now.  Full, literally full to the brim with love.  And that, my friends, is something I cannot argue with.

d.  Delayed gratification is inevitably better.  It sucks waiting for it.  And sometimes it's really really hard to wait for anything.  (I think I have touched on this topic recently...perhaps I am repeating a lot of myself...but I think what I am trying to do is remind myself of all the things I need to remember constantly.  Sometimes, I get stuck in my own head over-thinking all these things I am trying to sort out, when the bottom line is really, just believing it will be alright, having faith that God has it under control and that I need to stop looking ahead and I need to stop looking behind, because right now is the magic of it all.)  Waiting for something, and knowing it's true value, will also be another moment of magic.  Right now, I think I know what I am waiting for, but some part of me knows and believes that God might have something else in store for me.  Something that's not in my plan.  Something that I don't even know exists.  Something that will be beyond worth the wait when it arrives.  Until then, I have more than enough to leave me feeling blissful.  

e.  Sometimes goodbye is the only thing to say.  It sucks.  It hurts.  I don't want to do it.  I wish it never had to happen again.  I wish i never had to ever tell anyone that I love and cherish goodbye.  but sometimes, life just takes a course of its own.  Paths diverge.  Roads split.  And, for two people to be the best versions of themselves, they can no longer walk hand-in-hand.  Perhaps, we may meet again, but if not, I will know that it is better this way (or I will continue to tell myself it's better this way, until i believe that).

goodbye, my love.  I hope you find whatever it is you are looking for.  And from the words of one of my favorite songs to belt out in the car:

"I hope life treats you kind
And I hope you have all you've dreamed of.
And I wish to you, joy and happiness.
But above all this, I wish you love."

Folks, life 'aint a June afternoon.  With sunbeating on your back and a cool iced tea in hand, with a magazine and suntan oil out.  It's not that breezy and simple.  Well, I guess it's not that breezy, but it's simple.  Things happen, and plans get interupted, and it doesn't always work out like we want it to.  But, it is simple.  Find what makes you happy.  Do that, as often as you can.  Love the people you have.  Enjoy as many wonderful memories as you can.  Tell people you love them and cherish them as often as you can.  Complain less.  Be grateful more.  Count your blessings.  And life is sure to work out as the way it should be.  This is what I believe anyway.

2012, it's a new year....and I am approaching it with a new mantra:

Believe and give thanksgiving for all my many blessings.  
Believe it's under God's control.  
Know that every moment is truly, exactly as it should be.  
Be patient.  Be patient.  Be patient.